Definition
The Sociable Affinity Mental Model (or “Man is a sociable being”) is the Enlightenment-era principle that humans have a natural, inherent instinct for benevolence and social interaction. It posits that solitude is a “refreshment” but permanent isolation is “insupportable,” making community and social affinity the fundamental building blocks of a functional society.
Why It Matters
The sociable affinity model is the ‘human foundation’ of society; it recognizes that our inherent drive for connection is not just a preference but a survival mechanism, making community building the most important long-term investment.
Core Concepts
- Natural Benevolence: The belief that humans naturally want to help and connect with one another, contrary to models of pure “state of nature” conflict.
- Amitié Amoureuse: A specific “exquisite” shade of feeling—a “romantic friendship” that is playful, flirtatious, and intellectual, yet short of “grand passion.” Franklin used this to maintain deep, long-term bonds with women (Caty Ray, Polly Stevenson) while preserving his domestic commitments.
- Surrogate Families: The tendency of sociable beings to replicate domestic arrangements in new environments (e.g., Franklin’s “family” at Craven Street) to satisfy the need for stable, intimate connection.
- Ostracism as Ultimate Punishment: The insight that being “excluded from society” is one of the worst punishments a human can endure.